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"When are you chatting with the Haim sisters?" a message reads. "I was hoping to ask if I can join as their fourth member."

There is only a single issue: The sender also wants to be the Haims' additional sibling. And we're far from alone. Multiple high-profile supporters have also begged for the position.

One thing is obvious an irresistible appeal is at play. The siblings Este, Danielle and Alana launched their path doing sets at neighborhood delis with their parents. Now they're multi-time Grammy Award nominees.

In the tradition of the greatest ensembles, they're a tight-knit gang. Their music videos frequently show them striding in sync down the avenues of Los Angeles. In concert, they jam with such unfettered joy you inevitably think, "I want to be part of that, too."

"How often on tour that audience members approached us and said, 'Seeing you perform, I got a guitar'," remarks Alana, the most junior of the sisters. "That is the ultimate honor. It is a prize in itself. We have succeeded if we can motivate young girls to make music."

"Therefore everyone is invited to be the fourth part of the family."

Historic Milestone

The group are speaking from home, where they're resting up after an major tour in for their fourth album, I Quit.

They're currently reeling from the news it's been shortlisted for a top rock honor at the Grammy Awards – with Haim the pioneering all-female band ever in consideration for the trophy.

"I watch the lists every year, so it sort of feels like The Truman Show when your name is read out," notes Alana. "I had to call my sisters to say, 'Am I hearing this right or am I hallucinating'?"

The importance of the accolade is deeply felt by the band.

"We deliberately set out to make a guitar-driven album this time, so it's a huge achievement," continues Alana. "But we're just appreciative for the female artists that paved the way."

Personal Turmoil and Laughter

The project was born from a phase of personal change. All three sisters found themselves single, and the music captures that unique liminal space where you're glad to be free, but not entirely ready to let go.

The themes track endings and goodbyes. The sisters desire love, but not the kind of love they've had. You can hear them determining in real life who they want to be.

"I adore description, yes," agrees Danielle. "I Quit is kind of like a slogan. You have to make an effort in blocking the criticism and saying, 'I don't give what people think'."

Refinement of Style

That newfound confidence demanded a fresh approach – more raw and immediate than anything the band had done before.

For Danielle, who helped produce the album, that began with the drum sound.

"Percussion is such a nuanced thing, and I care so much about it," she states.

"'Journey of the drum sound' will be the title of our biography," jokes Alana. "I always say, our albums don't start until we find the perfect drum sound."

Experiences and Shared Humor

The band's honesty inspired the album's marketing, where the sisters shared some of their romantic misadventures.

Someone left Este over a medical concern. Alana shared a story of flying to spend New Year's Eve with someone, only to receive a high five at midnight.

"During these breakups, you just feel like there's no light," says Alana. "So to be able to laugh at those stories and have them tell you wilder stories, it's so amazing."

A Confident Path

It's not difficult sense a evolution in the band. Today, Haim are more certain of their standing in the music world.

They're top-billed acts, with chart-topping albums and an global following.

But Haim will consistently be their top priority.

"My sisters and I have been playing music since I was little," shares Alana. "It's like nothing else that we were supposed to do. And I'm really thankful we've made it and we're still kicking."